LANGLEY AIR FORCE BASE, Va. –
The economy is down. Unemployment is up. Now one of our military members committed an atrocious act against fellow Americans. The Fort Hood shooting in Texas may leave us feeling exposed and vulnerable; related grief and fear can add to an existing unease during trying times.
When we feel vulnerable, it is easy to assume there is little that we can do to make any difference; however, many of the choices that are best are also less obvious, so it requires dedicated effort to pursue health.
Consider a few wise choices in response to tragic situations.
DO stay informed. DON'T overload on media.
We fool ourselves into thinking that as long as we are getting the next tidbit of fact or rumor, we can somehow be self-assured; however, too much media has a detrimental effect and only makes us more fearful and helpless. Instead, get the basic information and then take a break.
DO focus on loving the people in your life. DON'T dwell on hating the perpetrator.
Another mistake is to focus on hating the one who committed a crime, but do not allow anger and rage to consume you. They make one miserable and detract from the positive possibilities that exist. Instead of railing against this appalling stranger, focus your energy on a real action that can provide a place of peace amid the storm of stress.
DO make preparations. DON'T be consumed with worry.
When bad things happen to good people, it is only natural, and at times healthy, to worry that something similar might happen to us. The healthy choice is to focus on what is within our control. Define fears and then make a practical plan to minimize the likelihood of occurrence. Plan for the bad, hope for the good, and anxiety will subside.
DO grieve. DON'T push away the impact of this event.
Grieving is a sign of health - not weakness. No two people grieve the same way. Be prepared to allow yourself an opportunity to accept this loss and begin to heal.
DO take time to reflect. DON'T let this go unnoticed.
This situation offers an opportunity to ask, "What is important in life? What are personal values, goals and aspirations and do they make sense in light of all that has occurred?" The process can be a bit scary at first, but may lead to growth as we relinquish trivial pursuits and embrace a surer future, and greater hope.
To help with this process, remember the resources available to help you:
-Military & Family Life Consultant (anonymous, confidential, and free) - (757) 777-4172
-Military One Source Support (on-line, phone, and local support with 12 free confidential sessions) - www.militaryonesource.com or (877) 877-3647
-Free and anonymous on line assessment - http://www.militarymentalhealth.org/Welcome.aspx
-Airmen and Family Readiness Center - (757) 764-3990
-Health and Wellness Center (numerous classes available) - (757) 764-6321
-Mental Health Clinic (professional counseling on base) - (757) 764-6840
-Chaplain Services (Spiritual support and counseling) - (757) 764-7847
The Langley Traumatic Stress Response Team is comprised of individuals from the airman and family readiness center, chapel and mental health clinic.